Sarah Hunter Murray
Sarah Hunter Murray
Sex Researcher & Relationship Therapist

Sarah Hunter Murray, PhD

Relationship Therapist. Sex Researcher. Author.



"Not Always in the Mood: The New Science of Men, Sex, & Relationships"




Not feeling "in the mood?" Stuck in a sexual rut? Missing the early days of dating when you couldn’t keep your hands off each other? Looking for more passion in your relationship?

You’re not alone.

Longer-term relationships and marriages get a bad rap for being monotonous and routine. But when relationships are healthy, loving, safe, and supportive, they also offer opportunities to explore and embrace our sexuality fully and authentically.

How do I know this?

I obtained my PhD in Human Sexuality from the University of Guelph (in the Department of Family Relations & Applied Nutrition) and have become a leading expert on men and women’s sexual desire in long-term relationships. I research what turns us on, when we want sex (and when and why we don’t), the biggest misconceptions we have about men and women’s sexuality, and what the rest of us can learn from the most sexually satisfied couples. Today I’m a regularly sought-after sex expert for numerous media outlets and I author a blog for Psychology Today entitled “Myths of Desire.”

But it’s not just about knowing facts and having answers. My true passion is using my expertise to help individuals and couples navigate their unique sexual and romantic relationships.

As a Relationship Therapist practicing under the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists I love helping clients reconnect with their own sexuality connect more intimately with their romantic partners.

So if you’re wondering: “Can we ever get that spark back?” I’m here to help. You can read my blog, find information about my new book, or request a therapy appointment.

I’m a believer that better sex is possible.


Dr. Murray's research, relationship advice, and therapeutic insights have been profiled and syndicated in several news outlets.

In October 2017, Cosmopolitan Magazine included Sarah on their list of "Good Sex Pioneers"

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