Update: I Wrote a Book!

As you may or may not know, I wrote a book!

It feels like a dream to me now (which may or may not have been due to taking on this project while on a sleep deprived maternity leave, but I digress…)

After a few months of sitting in production, I finally have some exciting updates and information to share about my book from the cover image, to the marketing blurb, to pre-order info (oh my!!). Here it is:

What’s the book called?

Not Always in the Mood: The new science of men sex & relationships”

What’s it all about?

Here’s the blurb from the back cover:

If there is one thing we know about men and sex it is that men are always in the mood. Any time, any place. Right?


Men’s sexual desire has long been depicted as high, simple, and unwavering. But the new research around men’s desire tells us this is far from true; and that good sex and relationships are suffering from these long-held misconceptions.

In “Not Always in the Mood: The New Science of Men, Sex, & Relationships” sex researcher and relationship therapist Sarah Hunter Murray presents a lively, timely, and critical exploration of the newest, most surprising science on men and sex, shattering myths about men’s sexuality and helping today’s couples connect more deeply and authentically than ever before.

One-by-one, Murray examines the most detrimental, deep-held beliefs we as a society promote around men and their desire, and dive into how they affect our intimate relationships daily – and what to do about it. Do men actually crave and enjoy sex more than women? Do men “do the wanting” and prefer the chase? Where do they stand on sexual rejection? What’s the deal with porn? Answering these questions and more, this is a book for modern women and men alike. Moving beyond typical “here’s what he likes” sexual tips, the book empowers readers and offers a completely new perspective on sexuality that will validate men’s experiences and help their partners to a greater understanding of the psychology and emotions surrounding them.

When is it Available?

Not Always in the Mood” will officially be available on February 12, 2019 just in time for Valentine’s Day!

But if you’re interested in securing a copy there are pre-order options available at Chapters, Barnes & Noble, IndieBound, Amazon and through my publishing house Rowman & Littlefield !

That’s it for now! I can’t wait to share the next update!


Sarah Hunter Murray